Majority of the new generation of men have an overarching tendency of asking some pretty annoying things post coitus- imagine your man asking whether you had an orgasm, right after a scintillating intimacy!
On the onset, it seems like a very nice and thoughtful thing to ask. Most young men prioritize their own pleasure and don’t really care whether the woman enjoyed herself or not so it is great when you come across a man who thinks your sexual escapade is important too.
The fact that a man is asking such inept question shows that such a man doesn’t actually care whether the woman had a corresponding steamy romp or not. Without batting an eyelid, such a man was simply ‘plaughing’ away and quite literally telling her that her pleasure was the last thing in that man’s mind.
When you have to ask that grating question, it shows that you were too preoccupied with your own pleasure and you were not paying attention to the inner craving by the woman post coitus.
If the man ever cared, he ought to be asking how he can make her finish before or after sex. Someone likened asking a woman if she’d an orgasm or not after sex to asking a woman if she needs help carrying the groceries, right after she’d placed the last bag on the counter.
The problem is that for men, sex is all about the big O. For women, the probability of getting few orgasms than menfolk doesn’t make sex any less pleasurable.
Women put more emphasis on the emotional bond with the significant other during sex, not on the intensity of the orgasm.
A lot of men fail to please on the big stage because they don’t like to ask what a woman likes in bed. Different women like different things. What worked for your Ex might not work with your new gal.
Rating a whole sexual experience as a success or failure based sorely on whether you made her finish or not ruins the experience. That explains the theory of fake orgasms.
When you make it seem like getting an orgasm is the be-all and end-all of sex, a woman will feel pressured to fake the damn thing so as not to disappoint you.
So the rule of the thumb is: if you are in a dilemma as to whether your lady had an orgasm or not, don’t ask. Instead, try and find out how you can make the experience better for her at the second bite of the cherry.
Stop worrying about the end result and just enjoy the cruise. An orgasm is pretty noticeable so you wouldn’t need to ask if a woman did! The best sex is not the one where the woman had the most intense orgasm!